Lower Than Dirt

This is almost a soapbox post. Megan called me in tears again. Again it had to do with how her father made her feel. He's given the "okay" to the idea of Megan looking for a house to buy instead on renting an apartment. The key stipulation is that the payment has to be less than her rent. That puts her trying to find something for $100,000 or less. She really needs to sit down with her father and get a clear picture of what his "expectations" are. She mentioned to him that she found something for $60,000 but it had a lot wrong with it. Now she feels like her father only wants to buy a dump for her to live in while her sister lives in a house on a golf course that Megan says he pays for.

I'm not going to get into the pissing contest about who does what, I've been told the same thing by others. That's not the point, the point is how he makes her feel. She feels like she is the least favored one, the black sheep, unwanted, ect. She continues to wonder what she has done wrong to be treated the way she feels.

The whole problem is that she and her father can NOT communicate, period. She is very appreciative that he bought her car and is putting her through school. The whole idea of buying a house was to try and help save her father money, maybe give him a tax break and even use it as a rental property down the road.

Megan needs to understand that buying a house is very stressful. She should be open minded to looking at a fixer-upper as long as it's structurally sound. That's where a good home inspector will come in handy.

But again she and her father need to communicate!